A collection of six readings on “femme” identity, situating the term and idea within Blackness and anti-racism.
When apps like Tinder first hit the mainstream, people were quick to reflect on how casual dating was killing modern romance. In the years since, millennials were mocked for concepts like “ghosting” — the practice of slowly killing off a relationship through avoiding, evasion, and silence.
But what does the supposed death of modern romance mean for those of us who have never had it as an option? Is “ghosting” experienced differently by queer people? And if so, how?
I wrote for The Establishment about ball culture, RuPaul’s Drag Race, and the gender politics of “faux queens” taking up space.